Foreplay is crucial for women—it can last all day, even when you’re not together. Passion can reach its peak at the first touch, but how do you get there? Here are 22 expert-backed tips to make every intimate moment unforgettable.
1. Send Sexy Messages Throughout the Day
Foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom—it begins the moment you wake up. A simple text like “I can’t wait to be naked with you tonight” can build anticipation long before you even touch.
2. Public Touches (Discreetly)
A subtle brush against her lower back while waiting in line or a teasing stroke under the table during dinner can drive her wild. These small, secret touches signal your desires and keep her on edge.
3. Slow Down the Undressing
Foreplay is a marathon, not a sprint. Instead of rushing, take your time removing each piece of clothing, savoring every newly revealed part of her body.
4. Play the Stripper
Women enjoy a good striptease just as much as men. Take inspiration from movies like Magic Mike and put on your own seductive show. Confidence is key!
5. Wear Sexy Underwear
Lingerie isn’t just for women. A well-fitted pair of boxers or briefs can be surprisingly arousing for your partner.
6. Give Her an Erotic Massage
Before sex, set the mood with a sensual massage. Dim the lights, play soft music, and use warm massage oil. Start with relaxing strokes before gradually moving to more intimate areas.
7. Ask What Turns Her On
If you’re unsure what she likes, just ask. “Most women appreciate a man who wants to ensure their pleasure,” says Cornell University psychology professor Marbara Bartlik. Open communication leads to better intimacy.
8. Quality Over Quantity
A rushed foreplay session won’t satisfy anyone. “If you act like you’re just going through the motions to get to sex, she’ll notice and take longer to get aroused,” warns California-based sex therapist Dr. Michael Perry. Enjoy the process—she’ll feel it too.
9. Start Slow with Clitoral Stimulation
The clitoris is sensitive—direct stimulation can sometimes be painful. “It’s better to tease around it before going straight in,” advises Cathy Winks, author of The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-spot. The same goes for oral sex—alternate between light licks and pauses.
10. Expand Your Oral Techniques
Switch things up by changing angles and pressure. Try horizontal tongue movements instead of the usual vertical ones. Experimentation keeps things exciting.
11. Drive Her Wild with the “Figure Eight” Technique
Trace the shape of an “8” around her clitoris with your tongue, varying pressure and speed. Many women find this method incredibly pleasurable.
12. Don’t Ignore the Labia
The inner and outer labia are packed with nerve endings. Gently massage them with your fingers or tease them with your tongue.
13. Explore Her Entire Body
Focusing only on the genitals is a missed opportunity. “Try kissing, nibbling, or licking erogenous zones like the neck, thighs, and ears before moving south,” suggests Cassie Fuller, co-founder of sexual education company Touch of Flavor.
14. Introduce a Toy
A vibrator can add a new dimension to foreplay. Use it on her erogenous zones before or during sex for heightened pleasure.
15. Watch Your Words
“Cheesy or overused phrases can kill the mood,” says relationship expert April Masini of AskApril.com. Keep it simple—compliment her body or describe a fantasy.
16. Pay Attention to Her Reactions
Everyone is different. “If she loves making out on the couch, don’t rush to the bedroom. If she reacts oddly to dirty talk, switch tactics,” advises Masini.
17. Be Mindful of Your Own Arousal
If you’re worried about finishing too soon, learn to recognize pre-orgasmic sensations. “Most men only notice the point of no return—by then, it’s too late,” says David Copeland, author of How to Succeed with Women.
18. Kiss Passionately
“Women get immense pleasure from frequent, deep kissing,” says clinical sexologist Dr. Patti Britton, author of The Art of Sex Coaching. If she starts losing interest, a steamy kiss can bring her back.
19. Reward Her Boldness
If she initiates, make the experience unforgettable. Men’s Health suggests that positive reinforcement encourages her to take the lead more often.
20. Shower Together
There’s something undeniably sensual about kissing under running water. The slippery soap and skin make for an erotic, hands-free experience.
21. Watch an Erotic Film Together
If porn feels too explicit, try a sensual movie instead. Many women have curated lists of tasteful erotic films—find one that excites both of you.
22. Embrace Silence
Turn off all distractions—phones, TV, music. Even holding back moans during foreplay can build tension, making the eventual release even more explosive.
Great sex isn’t just about technique—it’s about connection, anticipation, and mutual pleasure. By incorporating these 22 erotic tips, you’ll keep the passion alive and ensure unforgettable intimacy.
What’s your favorite foreplay trick? Let us know in the comments!
